Perhaps it's a worldwide phenomenon that everyone will try to put you in their own frame, viewpoint, order and criticize if you are doing something opposite.
Or it's just me who feels it as an issue.
It is commonly accepted that in Latvia you have a certain flow of life - you graduate, you start working, meanwhile getting so called serious boyfriend, leaving parents house, making career, getting married, having kids and then by age of 35-40 you can look back at your life and say that you did well. You run so fast through life fighting with everyone and everything to achieve what needs to be achieved and then you realize that life is passing by. You do "what needs to be done", what is correct by some unwritten rules.
No, I don't know. I suppose what others might suppose and what I see around (subjectively, of course).
That was also my plan and it worked quite well until I was here until middle of my Bachelor studies.
But then I changed the environment and realized things are different. World is different and much more bigger than I thought - i.e., maybe the right word is not bigger, but that there IS something behind borders of Latvia. (And being part of the world, doesn't mean to stop being Latvian.)
Since then I have a feeling of looking for something. I still don't know what and how but I don't feel fitting into the "normal" universally recognized Latvian lifestyle.
Yet I am here and back in the start position - the same as when graduating high school. In a Master program with 10 000 new things and learning many almost from the scratch, though, I thought I knew something from social sciences, the same living place, changing several public transports to get somewhere and carefully planning the budget but looking at the world differently.
Hope the last thing will help to understand how, why and where to aim next.
Notes from me & around My own personal view to things here and around whenever I am. More or less Latvia and Mexico. No regularity, no particular topics. But I do have things to say louder.
Hi Vaira,
ReplyDeleteI like your thoughts, I think I was having something similar a few times before.
Our countries are a bit similar in the following: in Kazakhstan a daughter is a strategically important person in a family. I am talking right now about Kazakh girls mostly. You grow up, you graduate from a university/-ies, and people expect you to start your own family. It is one of the overwhelming weights on a girl's shoulders to my mind.
However, I see changes in our society in Kazakhstan- women become more ambitious, they want to take new leadership positions/roles in families, in a corporate world, in the government, etc.
No idea if it is a really good sign that we are a little bit changing there, and not keeping the old tradiotions and previous lifestyles, but this is what I call moving forward :)
Good luck with your reintegration :)
Assel